The Blog of Jake Kelfer
8 speakers. 1 question. 8 unique answers. I asked 8 motivational speakers who speak on a wide variety of topics one question: If you could leave your audience with only 1 message/piece of advice, what would it be?
Here is what they said:
Learning doesn’t stop once you graduate or stop going to school… or at least it shouldn’t.
Learning is a lifelong process that evolves as you do throughout your journey. Every new job, relationship, and experience is a chance to learn something new and use that knowledge to increase your quality of life.
The best part about learning is that you get to choose how and what you want to learn. You can learn about how to cook a delicious dessert or you can learn how to manage your personal finances better.
The possibilities are endless, but the key to continuous growth is to feed your mind with new information and then act upon the knowledge you possess
“You gotta risk it to get the biscuit.” I can’t believe I just quoted Fired Up! to start an article, but here we are. By the way if you haven’t seen Fired Up, you definitely should 🙂
We live in a world where people are afraid to take risks. People are scared of being rejected. People are scared of trying and failing. People are scared of being independent and going against the grain. People are worried that their risks will be looked down upon.
The things is… all of these doubts and worries are valid. I’ve had all of them.
Calculated risks are important for our personal growth and development. It’s part of what makes life so fun and exciting. It challenges us and forces us to create new ways of thinking.
What’s one of the best ways to learn? It’s to teach!
When I was in high school and college, I always felt the way I learned best was by teaching because the more I spoke about a particular subject or project, the clearer it became to me. Even if I didn’t fully grasp it at first, the more I shared and taught, the better I came to understand it.
Back in high school, I loved math. I loved to solve problems and race against the calculator. I enjoyed this so much that I started tutoring people and the more I tutored people, the sharper I became. I learned things at a deeper level and started to find better ways to solve certain problems.
Albert Einstein once said, “If you can’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it well enough.”
Have you ever wondered what you should do when you first wake up in the morning? What about the last thing you do before you go to bed?
According to Jay Shetty, former Monk turned motivational icon, studies show 80% of us look at our phones first thing in the morning and the last thing we see at night. It causes our brains to constantly be ON.
Most of us spend hours lying in bed scrolling through Instagram. When we finally finish Instagram, we move onto Snapchat, Facebook or Twitter, and when we feel that we are updated, we go straight back to Instagram only to realize that we’ve been on our phone for 2 hours and should probably put it away so we can actually get some sleep.
Then when we wake up, the first thing we do is look at all the notifications we missed. If we don’t get any notifications, we immediately start our day off disappointed. If we do get notifications, we start our day in a frenzy trying to respond to everything and check every platform which can often lead to us being rushed causing more stress.
The problem we are facing is that we all claim we want to be happier, but we aren’t taking the action necessary to make it our reality.
So, what should we be doing then?
I spent the past three weeks in Las Vegas working with NBA Summer League. If you’ve ever been to Vegas, you know a weekend can be a long time. Now, imagine being there for 3 weeks.
You start to call your hotel your home. You start to know the waitresses in the local coffee shop. You start to forget what day it is until you see the crowds in the hotel lobby or the swarm of people getting ready for a night in the club. You eat the same food over and over again in the food court.
But after three weeks, I can say…
IT WAS AWESOME!
Not in the way most of you are thinking. I wasn’t there to party and spend 3 weeks on vacation. I was there to work, to learn, to grow, to elevate, and to have fun.
So rather than give you an in depth breakdown of the entire trip, here are 3 of my big takeaways.
Who is the voice you listen to the most? Hear the most? Get annoyed with the most? Get motivated from the most?
If you are like most people, the voice you hear the most is the one inside your head. That voice is called your inner voice. You hear it when you are getting ready for sleep, when you are reading, when you are meditating, when you are thinking, and that’s just the beginning.
Earlier this week I had the privilege to attend a Q&A with Magic Johnson at an Oracle NetSuite networking event. My good friends Easton and Kendall invited me as Kendall was the one interviewing Magic so shoutout to them!
For those of you that don't know, my family and I are die-hard Lakers fans. Magic Johnson is and always has been my favorite basketball player. His jersey was the very first jersey I bought for my bar mitzvah back when I was 13. I wore the number 32 my entire childhood to honor both him and Sandy Koufax as I mostly played basketball and baseball. To say I was excited to learn from him was quite the understatement.
Earlier this week I ventured to Louisville, KY for the Kentucky DECA State Conference. It was my first DECA state conference, first trip to Louisville, and outside of the freezing cold weather, it was AWESOME! :)
When I got there I met the team and told them I was so excited to be in Louisville for the first time. Of course, I said it Lou-E-Ville and within seconds everyone was laughing or looking at me like I was from another planet.
At first I was a bit confused, but then they explained that it's not pronounced that way but rather it's pronounced Lull-Vulle. Considering that I was thinking about saying Louisville in my speech, I spent a good portion of the rest of the night trying to break my habit.
If you are like me, then you are a sucker for a good quote. As a matter of fact, my next book might very well be a collection of incredible and inspiring quotes on specific aspects of life...
But until then, here are two quotes that I believe capture the meaning of human connection.
I think when quotes like these are understood and then applied, the result can be mightily impactful.
I know for me these two quotes have influenced my life in a big way and because of that I use them in a variety of ways in my speaking as well as in my book Elevate Your Network.
“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
– Maya Angelou
“You can make more friends in 2 months by becoming interested in other people than you can in 2 years by trying to get people interested in you.”
– Dale Carnegie
I am a motivational speaker on a mission to inspire people to achieve their own definition of success and reach the highest level of personal success and happiness.