The Blog of Jake Kelfer
We all know the feeling when it’s our birthday and we are stoked to wake up in the morning. We look forward to having people wish us Happy Birthday. We long for the feeling of appreciation and hope that this birthday will be a special day.
After all, it’s our birthday… shouldn’t we feel special? I mean, it only happens once a year.
What does a greeting really mean?
This probably isn’t something you think about very often. It might even be something you’ve never thought twice about.
And, that is why I’m bringing it to your attention.
The way we greet others and the way others greet us can tell us a lot about our relationship with that person. It can tell us how we feel about someone else without realizing it, how they make us feel, and at the same time, it can tell them how we feel about them.
I’m going to write this a bit differently than my normal articles. One side is going to be from you giving a greeting while the other will be you receiving the greeting.
It has come to my attention that people, yes all people, want to be loved, have a sense of belonging, and feel that they matter. Crazy, right?
It has also come to my attention that we are so focused on ourselves, how many likes we get, followers we have, things to do, etc., that we lose sight on giving people what we know they want.
If we know that people want to feel loved, like when they are complimented, or even feel great when you remember something about them, then why don’t we attempt to do this more often. Why don’t we attempt to give people these feelings more?
Every day we communicate with people. Sometimes it's in person while other times it's digital. No matter how you communicate with someone, it's always important to keep in mind that every day communication over time creates relationships and experiences.
There are so many obvious ways to improve communication and become a good connector, but if you want to be great, here are 4 elite tips to for effective communication that will increase your quality of relationships and improve your ability to connect with people on a personal level.
The time has finally arrived. You are off to your event or conference and you are ready to put all your preparation into action. It’s officially game time!
By the time you arrive at the conference you should be feeling good to go. You might have some nerves because there are a lot of unknowns, but that is okay. At the same time if you read part one on preparation, you will be so prepared you’ll have a plan of attack and several people waiting to meet you.
Going to a big conference or networking event soon? I have you covered. As you scroll through you'll be able to see 3 influential ways you can prepare for your next event that will reduce your nerves and set you up for incredible success.
This past weekend I had the chance to attend an amazing conference called NAWD. The attendees were a mixed group of about 300 educators, speakers, Student Activities Advisors, and much more, and they all had a passion for education and positive growth.
I heard of this conference several months prior to the date of the event and marked it on my calendar immediately as I knew this was a conference I had to attend. When I first became aware of it, I knew it was going to be a great place to learn and network, but in order to maximize my experience I needed to prepare.
We did it! We are officially two weeks in since the launch of Elevate Your Network and all I can say is...WOW!
It's one thing to see the book inspire thousands of people, but it's a completely magical thing to feel the love and support from my friends, colleagues, and the elevate community.
A huge part of relationships is your ability to make people feel appreciated and want to be around you. Think of your favorite people. They’re most likely your favorite people because you enjoy how they make you feel. You want to spend time with them and be around them.
Imagine if by switching one word you could make a huge difference in your ability to make others feel valued and appreciated. Not just people in your circle, but strangers and people that you meet.
It's almost time! The launch of Elevate Your Network is coming and I am so thrilled for the world to read it.
I think some of the best books, blog posts, articles, content come when there's a purpose behind the message. There are a ton of people who can create great messaging, but for me having a WHY makes it that much more meaningful to both me as the creator and you as the consumer. I think this principle is true for life and business as well.
A lot of thought has gone into my book and the "elevate" brand, so I figured it was time to share some of this logic.
Now, for the good stuff and inspiration behind the book - the color scheme, why each chapter is called a Kelf Key, and why there are 25 Kelf Keys.
Last week I went to a meetup in Santa Monica as part of Alex Banayan’s book tour for his national bestseller The Third Door.
I was introduced to Alex about a year ago through a mutual friend who said we had a lot in common with our drive to understand what makes people successful. He told me that Alex was on this incredible quest to interview some awesome people and that I should follow along.
Fast forward to August 2018 and his project has become one of the best books of the year – The Third Door. I mean, it’s really good! He interviews people like Jessica Alba, Pitbull, Bill Gates, Steve Wozniak, and so many more while also sharing his story and overcoming incredible adversity.
I am a motivational speaker on a mission to inspire people to achieve their own definition of success and reach the highest level of personal success and happiness.