The Blog of Jake Kelfer
The feeling you get when you go to a great conference is truly special. It’s hard to describe but whenever I go to a conference, I find myself leaving with a heightened sense of purpose. I feel motivated to take action and am giddy to try out all the new strategies and techniques I learned. Maybe it’s the people I met or maybe it’s because the conference made me feel some type of way.
That was definitely the case with Influencer 2019 which was created by Brendon Burchard, the world’s leading high performance coach. I had my hesitations about going to the conference (didn’t want to miss two days of work, didn’t want to spend more money, wasn’t sure if it would be worth it), but it was a 2 hour drive and some of the experts I look up to were going to be speaking, so the decision was made. Plus, I’d get to see one of my best friends Tony in San Diego.
The thing about conferences that I think people forget sometimes is you don’t need to have all of your problems solved in 2 days; you just need to walk away with some gold nuggets and new relationships.
The other thing I remembered is that everyone is motivated after a conference, but not everyone is willing to put in the work when they get back to reality so I made it a focus to write down several actionable takeaways that I could immediately implement following the conference.
In the spirit of taking action and reflecting on a great experience, here are 6 powerful takeaways from my time at Influencer.
"No one can tell you if your dream is right.” - Jamie Kern Lima
If you’re wondering who Jamie is, I was thinking the exact same thing. She was a last minute speaker addition and I had never heard of her until the moment she came on stage. But boy am I glad she spoke. Jamie is the co-founder and CEO of It Cosmetics which sold to L’Oreal for $1.2 billion. For an hour straight she captivated me and 2,000+ other audience members describing her journey.
One of my favorite stories she shared was about how the QVC person who turned her away when she was working from her living room ended up being on her Advisory Board and being one of her greatest supporters and mentors.
Rachel Hollis also mentioned the power of dreaming and said she’s one of the biggest dreamers out there. She told a great story about her rise to stardom and how people responded when Girl, Wash Your Face became a worldwide phenomenon.
She said people came up to her all the time and congratulated her on her first book. She said she’d laugh and say, “This isn’t my first book. It’s my sixth!”
Sometimes people won’t understand your dreams and that’s okay. Just because they can’t raise their level of dreaming doesn’t mean we have to lower ours.
I have dreams to sell out arenas like Rachel. I have dreams to be married to the love of my life and have amazing, healthy children. I have dreams to impact millions of people through a message. I have dreams to sell millions of copies of books. It's not a matter of IF, but WHEN!
Brene Brown is the GOAT!
I’d say half of the speakers, all extremely elite in their own way, quoted or mentioned Brene Brown in their talks. It wasn’t surprising because many people mentioned the idea of vulnerability especially when it comes to social media and building an online brand.
I told this to my mom after the conference and she immediately gave a copy of Brene Brown’s masterpiece Rising Strong. I'm 45 pages in and already starting to think about how I can be more vulnerable in my life.
There’s a difference between real and fake vulnerability and Natalie Hodson made sure we were aware of that. She talked about the importance of sharing scars not wounds.
Real vulnerability is being open and honest where fake vulnerability is being open because it’s what you think your audience wants to hear. Natalie talked about how she peed her pants after having kids, something I didn’t quite understand initially, but after that experience she was able to share it with the world and relate to women all over the world who have Pelvic Floor Dysfunction. I think I got that right… I’m still learning 🙂
The Roadmap to Success Exists!
Brendon Burchard, the host and creator of Influencer, laid it out for everyone to see. There are key things that every person does that makes them successful.
He talked about the 4 things he would do if he was starting over today - ebook or book, 1 on 1 coaching, online course, and subscription. Guess what? I’m going to work on those 4 things and find a way to add my own unique Kelfer flair to it.
Part of personal and professional growth is listening to what the experts say and figuring out how to replicate their advice and experiences in your own way. Copying them isn’t right because it’s not you, it’s them.
Taking what they’ve learned and applying it to your life can drastically cut down the time and mistakes we will make on our journey.
You Have More Control Than You Think
Anthony Trucks is a human rarity and continues to defy the odds of life. From foster care to the NFL to being broken to being on American Ninja Warrior, he taught us about the power of owning our shift. Anthony Trucks talking about shifts… get it?
He went through his story and gave us four incredible pieces of wisdom to “Own Our Shift” which are:
Between him, Lewis Howes, Trent Shelton, and everyone who was there, a common theme was to take control of your actions and execute on the things that are important and meaningful to you in your life.
Most People Aren’t Willing to Do What It Takes
Tom Bilyeu, Founder of Quest Nutrition and Creator of Impact Theory, laid into the audience with his direct tone and confident appearance.
He asked two questions to everyone in the audience:
I loved this because it reminded me of a simple truth. A lot of people have knowledge or an idea, but very few are willing to act on it and execute it.
There are millions of people in the world who want to start a business. Very few do.
There are millions of people who know that conferences can help them in their life. Very few go.
There were 2,000+ people at Influencer hearing the same things I was. Very few will actually do the work. The ones that do do the work will see great results in whatever they pursue.
Sure, I wish everyone would take action and succeed. I really do. I think there is enough room for us all to win in life. But unfortunately, a lot of people aren’t willing to put in the work and I hope that throughout my journey, I’ll be able to help people take action and create their own version of success that works for them.
People are Awesome!
I met so many cool people at the conference! I met someone from Australia, someone from Singapore, and people from all over the United States. It’s such a cool experience to be surrounded by people who all have dreams and goals to create a better life for themselves and their families.
Everyone has something unique to offer and I heard countless stories of what people want to change in the world. One person wants to help people live in flow. Another person wants to help students in Asia learn important life principles vs just focusing on grades. One science teacher wants to help students learn science concepts in a way that benefits their future rather than just checking off the boxes. One person wants to help nurses live a happier life.
People are absolutely incredible! One fo my new friends, Chris, is creating something extremely powerful and I can’t wait to support him along the journey. Literally, as I am typing this he texted me asking what actions I’ve taken since the conference. So cool!
If you want to have influence in the game of life, lead by example. Listen with an open heart. Learn with genuine interest. What was your biggest takeaway from this article?
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I am a motivational speaker on a mission to inspire people to achieve their own definition of success and reach the highest level of personal success and happiness.