The Blog of Jake Kelfer
It’s the first day of kindergarten and all the families were bringing their sons and daughters for the very first time. It was a day of pure excitement and joy, for the parents that is.
There was one little girl, in particular, Melissa was her name, who was more excited than the rest of the children. She was glowing with positive energy, smiling from ear to ear. The other children were figuring out if they should cry because their parents were leaving or fully commit to all the fun and nap time they were about to have. Little did they know that this youthful and bubbly girl would start a chain reaction that would change their lives forever.
100 people in 100 days. ME + YOU. 10 minutes. All ages. All races. All religions. All income levels. All PEOPLE.
As I experience life more, I’ve learned a lot, but there are two things that continue to pop up over and over again: time and human connection. I believe that time is our greatest resource and how we spend our time and who we spend it with is incredibly important. I believe that human connection is a driving force that can dramatically decrease mental health issues and exponentially increase personal happiness.
That’s why I want to do what I’m calling 100 people in 100 days. The plan is to conduct 100 FaceTimes or phone calls in the next 100 days with people from all backgrounds - people I may know to complete strangers. The goal of this is to spread happiness across continents, remind people that they are amazing and that even a stranger like me is willing to support them on their journey. Anyone can participate, all you have to do is say YES.
Based on my timeline this will put me right around Thanksgiving which couldn’t be better timing. I’ll spend Thanksgiving celebrating with my family and being grateful for all the incredible stories I've heard and new people I’ve talked to in the last 100 days.
I’m thrilled to give this a shot, so if you want to nominate yourself or a friend, schedule a time here.
Learning doesn’t stop once you graduate or stop going to school… or at least it shouldn’t.
Learning is a lifelong process that evolves as you do throughout your journey. Every new job, relationship, and experience is a chance to learn something new and use that knowledge to increase your quality of life.
The best part about learning is that you get to choose how and what you want to learn. You can learn about how to cook a delicious dessert or you can learn how to manage your personal finances better.
The possibilities are endless, but the key to continuous growth is to feed your mind with new information and then act upon the knowledge you possess
“You gotta risk it to get the biscuit.” I can’t believe I just quoted Fired Up! to start an article, but here we are. By the way if you haven’t seen Fired Up, you definitely should 🙂
We live in a world where people are afraid to take risks. People are scared of being rejected. People are scared of trying and failing. People are scared of being independent and going against the grain. People are worried that their risks will be looked down upon.
The things is… all of these doubts and worries are valid. I’ve had all of them.
Calculated risks are important for our personal growth and development. It’s part of what makes life so fun and exciting. It challenges us and forces us to create new ways of thinking.
What’s one of the best ways to learn? It’s to teach!
When I was in high school and college, I always felt the way I learned best was by teaching because the more I spoke about a particular subject or project, the clearer it became to me. Even if I didn’t fully grasp it at first, the more I shared and taught, the better I came to understand it.
Back in high school, I loved math. I loved to solve problems and race against the calculator. I enjoyed this so much that I started tutoring people and the more I tutored people, the sharper I became. I learned things at a deeper level and started to find better ways to solve certain problems.
Albert Einstein once said, “If you can’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it well enough.”
We all know the feeling when it’s our birthday and we are stoked to wake up in the morning. We look forward to having people wish us Happy Birthday. We long for the feeling of appreciation and hope that this birthday will be a special day.
After all, it’s our birthday… shouldn’t we feel special? I mean, it only happens once a year.
Have you ever wondered what you should do when you first wake up in the morning? What about the last thing you do before you go to bed?
According to Jay Shetty, former Monk turned motivational icon, studies show 80% of us look at our phones first thing in the morning and the last thing we see at night. It causes our brains to constantly be ON.
Most of us spend hours lying in bed scrolling through Instagram. When we finally finish Instagram, we move onto Snapchat, Facebook or Twitter, and when we feel that we are updated, we go straight back to Instagram only to realize that we’ve been on our phone for 2 hours and should probably put it away so we can actually get some sleep.
Then when we wake up, the first thing we do is look at all the notifications we missed. If we don’t get any notifications, we immediately start our day off disappointed. If we do get notifications, we start our day in a frenzy trying to respond to everything and check every platform which can often lead to us being rushed causing more stress.
The problem we are facing is that we all claim we want to be happier, but we aren’t taking the action necessary to make it our reality.
So, what should we be doing then?
Month #8 is here! We are 7 for 7 with over $1,800 raised. This month we aim to keep our streak of raising $100+ alive by raising money for the LucStrong Foundation.
Before we dive in, let’s look back at the first half:
As always, thank you in advance to everyone who’s participated in the Giving Challenge by sharing my posts, donating money, or just believing in the mission of helping others and spreading the good word.
I’ve always been a happy person… for the most part.
But it wasn’t until the last quarter of 2018 when I started to take happiness really seriously. My good friend and fellow motivational speaker, Kyle Willkom, suggested I take a look at a guy named Shawn Achor.
Shawn Achor is an expert on positive psychology and after spending hours of time with him (yes, we became best friends through YouTube videos 🙂), I decided to try out a few of his techniques. I wanted to take his findings and figure out how I could apply them to my life on a daily basis.
Through his research, Shawn says there are 5 things we can do each day to live a happier life.
How do we do each one? Does everyone have to do the same amount? What is enough? Do we all get the same impact from each one?
I’ve spent a heavy majority of 2019 studying happiness taking courses and learning what it really means to be happier and throughout this year, I’ve experimented how these 5 things have made me happier.
I spent the past three weeks in Las Vegas working with NBA Summer League. If you’ve ever been to Vegas, you know a weekend can be a long time. Now, imagine being there for 3 weeks.
You start to call your hotel your home. You start to know the waitresses in the local coffee shop. You start to forget what day it is until you see the crowds in the hotel lobby or the swarm of people getting ready for a night in the club. You eat the same food over and over again in the food court.
But after three weeks, I can say…
IT WAS AWESOME!
Not in the way most of you are thinking. I wasn’t there to party and spend 3 weeks on vacation. I was there to work, to learn, to grow, to elevate, and to have fun.
So rather than give you an in depth breakdown of the entire trip, here are 3 of my big takeaways.
I am a motivational speaker on a mission to inspire people to achieve their own definition of success and reach the highest level of personal success and happiness.