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What does a greeting really mean?
This probably isn’t something you think about very often. It might even be something you’ve never thought twice about.
And, that is why I’m bringing it to your attention.
The way we greet others and the way others greet us can tell us a lot about our relationship with that person. It can tell us how we feel about someone else without realizing it, how they make us feel, and at the same time, it can tell them how we feel about them.
I’m going to write this a bit differently than my normal articles. One side is going to be from you giving a greeting while the other will be you receiving the greeting.
It has come to my attention that people, yes all people, want to be loved, have a sense of belonging, and feel that they matter. Crazy, right?
It has also come to my attention that we are so focused on ourselves, how many likes we get, followers we have, things to do, etc., that we lose sight on giving people what we know they want.
If we know that people want to feel loved, like when they are complimented, or even feel great when you remember something about them, then why don’t we attempt to do this more often. Why don’t we attempt to give people these feelings more?
This bonus charity and mini campaign is brought to you by longtime supporter of the Giving Challenge who is participating in a half marathon this Sunday to raise money and awareness for Teach for America.
You can donate directly here.
Month #4 is here which means it’s SHOWTIME! For the month of April, we are going to be raising money for Feeding America.
Before we dive in, let’s look back at the first three months:
We’ve had donors from all over the country! Major shoutout to those of you who are making a monthly contribution to the Giving Challenge.
Earlier this week I ventured to Louisville, KY for the Kentucky DECA State Conference. It was my first DECA state conference, first trip to Louisville, and outside of the freezing cold weather, it was AWESOME! :)
When I got there I met the team and told them I was so excited to be in Louisville for the first time. Of course, I said it Lou-E-Ville and within seconds everyone was laughing or looking at me like I was from another planet.
At first I was a bit confused, but then they explained that it's not pronounced that way but rather it's pronounced Lull-Vulle. Considering that I was thinking about saying Louisville in my speech, I spent a good portion of the rest of the night trying to break my habit.
Month #3 is here which means it’s SHOWTIME! For the month of March we are going to be raising money for Saving Innocence.
Before we dive in, let’s look back at the first two months:
In total, we’ve had over 30 donors and a few repeat people. Shoutout to those of you who are making a monthly contribution to the Giving Challenge
If you are like me, then you are a sucker for a good quote. As a matter of fact, my next book might very well be a collection of incredible and inspiring quotes on specific aspects of life...
But until then, here are two quotes that I believe capture the meaning of human connection.
I think when quotes like these are understood and then applied, the result can be mightily impactful.
I know for me these two quotes have influenced my life in a big way and because of that I use them in a variety of ways in my speaking as well as in my book Elevate Your Network.
“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
– Maya Angelou
“You can make more friends in 2 months by becoming interested in other people than you can in 2 years by trying to get people interested in you.”
– Dale Carnegie
Every day we communicate with people. Sometimes it's in person while other times it's digital. No matter how you communicate with someone, it's always important to keep in mind that every day communication over time creates relationships and experiences.
There are so many obvious ways to improve communication and become a good connector, but if you want to be great, here are 4 elite tips to for effective communication that will increase your quality of relationships and improve your ability to connect with people on a personal level.
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Today is the day of love. Some of us will be spending today with our significant others, while some of us will be spending today with friends or maybe even alone.
Now matter how you spend today, I want to remind you that you are loved! It might not always feel like it, but it's true.
You are amazing.
You are powerful.
You are loved.
Sometimes we forget this because we focus on our flaws or we focus on what we don't have in life. We compare ourselves to others with the idea that if we aren't like them, we aren't good enough.
Well, today is about love: loving others and loving yourself. So make it your day's work, regardless of if you've been married for 50 years or you're single and ready to mingle, to spread the love today. Give a compliment, share a smile, look someone in the eyes, take a risk, or give someone a hug.
As my friend and colleague Houston Kraft says, "LOVE IS A CHOICE." We can choose to love ourselves and we can choose to love others.
Take a second today to tell someone you love them. At the same time, take a second to look in the mirror today and say, "I LOVE YOU!"
Month #2 is here which means it’s time to raise money for another charity! This month, we are going to be raising money for Thirst Project.
Before we dive into Thirst Project, let’s take a look at the numbers from month one of the 2019 Giving Challenge. In January, we started the Giving Challenge with the task of raising $100 for the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation. Within one week we hit our goal and by the end of January we raised a total of $620!!! We had 24 donors from all over the United States.
One of my goals for 2019 was to start drinking more water, specifically 100 ounces each day. Drinking water is incredibly important for everyone, but lately water has been huge for my health.
You can donate to the campaign here.
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