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When you think of a fun time, do you immediately think of going to a networking event or professional conference? Probably not. You probably consider binge watching the latest season of The Office on Netflix or going to 2 for 1 happy hour a fun time.
When you go to a networking event, you have two choices. You can go and wish you were somewhere else the whole time or you can commit to networking and try to make some new connections. And, let me tell you something… it’s easy to spot the people who are there because they feel they have to be and the people who are there because they want to be.
Part of being successful at a networking event is having a plan and strategy but more importantly having fun. Just because you are at a professional event, doesn’t mean you can’t laugh a bit and enjoy yourself. I recommend mixing business with a human element of getting to know someone’s journey and story. The best relationships don’t come from only discussing serious topics; they come from finding commonalities.
In this episode of The Elevate Beyond Show, we feature our very first guest, Coach R-Jay Barsh. Coach Barsh is the head men's basketball coach at Southeastern University, but more importantly he is a stellar human being.
We talk about what Coach Barsh's definition of success is, what he encourages others to do to keep moving forward, and we break down his David vs. Goliath mentality.
You can reach Coach Barsh on social media at @coachrjaybarsh.
Comment with your favorite Coach Barsh quote!
I recently posted a survey for a new online networking course called the Sports Networking Playbook that I am creating with one of my mentors and good friends, Sergio Millas.
Something that kept coming up in the responses was getting nervous before a big interview or networking meeting. Knowing from experience, this is definitely a real concern, especially when you are looking for a job, when you are trying to find your next client or when you are putting yourself out there for the first time.
If there is anything you need to remember it's that they agreed to interview you or take your meeting. That means they want to talk with you and hear what you have to offer! Don't ever forget that.
When dealing with people it’s important to know that no matter who you are meeting with or interviewing with, they are human just like you and me. CEOs, executives, professors, recruiters, decision makers, or whomever you are meeting with, all still want to feel good.
The Elevate Beyond Show made its debut on Instagram Live! In a world where we are constantly trying to differentiate from the pack, I've decided to create an online show on Instagram Live (@jakekelfer) for your entertainment.
It will be a 5-10 minute show hosted on my Instagram channel that will dive deep into the journey of achieving your own definition of success. The whole point of the show is to discuss vulnerability and authenticity as we play the game of life. I don't care if you are 8 years old or 80 years old, this show is going to be filled with incredible value, stories, and probably a bunch of bloopers since it's live :)
Last week, I embarked on a journey through the south. Over the course of three days, I traveled from Nashville to Alabama to Mississippi to Memphis and back to Nashville.
A couple things I should point out before you read about my three days through the south. First, I was making this trip because I wanted to drop off my book in person to different departments to try and get speaking gigs. I’m all in and willing to do whatever I have to do to separate myself from the pack. Secondly, I was planning to meet with as many basketball teams as I could while I was visiting the schools to raise awareness for the Professional Basketball Combine. Lastly, I wanted to visit the south as I had never been and see what the hype was all about.
With all that in mind, I was going to be on the road a lot. So, I decided to make a LinkedIn post opening up a few hours for informational interviews. I received quite a few responses and DMs so throughout my drive I had some great phone calls with people aspiring to break into sports and build their network.
When it was all said and done, the trip was about 800 miles of traveling. Here is goes.
I think it’s safe to say that we are all different. We come from different backgrounds. We speak different languages. We have different beliefs. We have difference senses of humor. We like different foods. We want to have different jobs. We have different ideas of love.
I think, at the end of the day, we can all agree that we are the same. We all want to be loved. We all want to feel valued. We all feel good after being complimented. We are all trying to figure out the journey of life. We are all PEOPLE.
Once you fully understand that people are people and we all have the same basic wants, you can begin to understand why it is so important to show interest in other people.
Over the last few weeks, I’ve been interviewing candidates to work for the Professional Basketball Combine.
I originally announced the opportunity to join the PBC on a LinkedIn post, where I asked for people to comment their email addresses if they were interested. From there, we sent them an email discussing the opportunities and how to apply.
As the author of a career and life motivation book, it was only fitting that I viewed the process through the lens of someone who works in the career space. Throughout the process, I decided to keep track of the way people sent in their application, how they communicated with me, and if/how they followed up.
What I found was fascinating.
I’ve been thinking a lot about the concept of instant vs. delayed gratification. This idea first entered my mind when I was in Florida for Elevate America which is my national speaking tour where I travel the country elevating and inspiring students, staff, and organizations.
I spent a lot of time with my friend Max and his family and this idea kept coming up. His mom, who is an absolute saint, originally brought it up with regards to food and making decisions about what to eat and when to eat it.
So what exactly is instant vs. delayed gratification?
This year I want to do some amazing things. I want to release my second book, take my businesses international, create new programming and courses, speak all over the nation, and take the Professional Basketball Combine to the next level.
On a personal level, I want to achieve more financial freedom, eat healthier and take care of my body more than I ever have, have more fun and go on trips, love more, continue to appreciate the journey and so much more.
All of these things are possible and will happen, but it’s going to take more than me just writing them here. It’s going to take CONSISTENCY, and that, my friends, is my one word for 2018.
Inspired by one of my favorite authors, Jon Gordon, I’m focusing on the word CONSISTENCY for 2018.
Going from the heart of New York to the swamps of Gainesville, FL was quite a shock. After spending two weeks in one of the busiest cities in the world, I found myself in one of the most chill cities I’ve ever been to.
My trip to Florida could not have been a better experience and that’s not including how great the weather was. It was about 75 and sunny for most of the trip :) When I went to Florida I knew it was going to be mellower than other parts of Elevate America, and I was completely okay with that.
I spent most of my time in Gainesville with one of my best friends Max and it was awesome hanging out with him. Max is one of my childhood best friends and is in the acknowledgments of Elevate Beyond. Max is one of those people who just knows how to make you feel good.